Precision language is going to work with the other elements of language you have been studying. It is most often easily used in the 4 Stage Protocol and can be used with almost any concept here as you are learning Conversational Hypnosis.

Language is the number one tool you will be working with. It is the vehicles that will take your thoughts, ideas and suggestions to the person you are working with. Now you must learn new ways to manipulate and form those thoughts, ideas and suggestions so they serve the purpose you are looking for.

Action accelerating words are one of the new tools that will help you to create a new twist on how to add impact to your language. As humans it is in our nature to want things as quickly and efficiently as possible. Action accelerators are words that will create that need with in the unconscious mind.

Action accelerators are unconsciously connected within us to feel societal pressure to give a quick and complete answer to whatever the request or question may be. They give off the feeling that response is needed immediately in the moment. Some good examples of how actions accelerators work and sound are the words; now, fully, quickly and immediately. Any time you insert one of these words in a statement or question you will evoke the emotion of quick action.

These words create a pressure for the listener to respond immediately and unconsciously. If you are feeling hurried in your response you will often bypass the critical factor out of the feeling of urgent need to meet the request. After the statement is made or the question is asked you are left with no time to second guess your decisions or statements.

In this alone action accelerators are very unconsciously powerful. Because they are so powerful it is also important to consider that there are times when they are appropriate and times when they are not. There is not hard core rule to tell you when it is ok to put this kind of pressure on a person. This is determined by the context of the situation, the person themselves and the environment they are in mentally and physically.

Another way to improve precision in your language is to use Anticipation builders. These are a great component to combine with action accelerators once you learn how to use them together.

Anticipation builders are exactly as they sound they assist you in building anticipation within your listener. This is basically done by frustrating the response. Consider how much more you are likely to want something after someone tells you that you cannot have it. Think of a two year old and the way they often go on and on, “Can I have it, can I have it, how about now can I pleeeeeeease have it!” The more you say no the more determined they are to pester you until they get it.

When you frustrate a response you are basically adding intensity to it. Think of something that is right in front of you but you cannot have it. There is anticipation that naturally and unconsciously starts to build within you simply because you cannot have it right now. You know you will get it later but you want it NOW.

As soon as this happens and you have frustrated the response, even just a little, the desire to have it will grow stronger and stronger the longer you must wait. So what words do you use to build anticipation with in other people?

Words that give a perception of time, eventually we will get to them. In a moment we will go over some examples of these words, and eventually you will have a good start on this vocabulary. Until then, keep anticipation acceleration in mind and sooner or later you will be able to recognize them in others conversations. Finally, a little later we will gradually work them into some statements.

Now you have some samples, you have them in action and a little anticipation should have been created for you, maybe some frustration too.

You will notice these words have the ability of slowing you down, or holding you back from actually getting to the point. This is the effect they are designed to have and there are many more words around that will do the same thing.

As you use these words you will be building the anticipation up and adding power to that with your other language skills. Once you have created all this mental frustration and momentum you will then use action accelerators to release the potential of your idea and there is so much activity going on unconsciously at this point that there will be very little critical factor available to analyze what you have said.

The opposite of the first two language skills here would most likely be Language Softeners. These are another way of using precise language. They are words that are used to soften up commands or instruction and are usually placed at the beginning or middle of statements. They are also most likely found somewhere within the instruction. “Close the window to keep the heat in.” Versus, “You might close the window to keep the heat in.”

Other words that you can use to soften your language are perhaps, maybe and could. The reason you will want to know and build a good vocabulary of these words is you can avoid antagonizing people. Some people, especially those of high status, do not like to hear commands and instruction from others. With language softeners you can make your commands sound much more like polite requests which they are much more apt to put action to.

Finally there is a way to make the failure to respond to a suggestion seem irrelevant precision in language. This includes and is related to softening language in that the impact will make your words and actions softer, less expectant.

There is always the likelihood that a subject will not respond to a suggestion that you have given them. When you ask people to do a thing internally like imagine or feel they may not respond and this can result in a loss of the rapport you worked so hard to build.

The way to avoid this is to give your listener choices that are in all reality instructions. These are statements that are soft, they are also going to be true which is where the opportunity for resistance and loss of rapport are immediately defeated. This is ultimately done by building a yes set of choices that are really instructions.

You could say something to the effect of, “You could imagine yourself in a boat on the water”. There is no argument here because it is true that they could do it. Whether or not they actually do is really irrelevant, the important thing is the flow of conversation has not been interrupted by resistance and loss of rapport. This is a great and powerful way to introduce new ideas or suggestions to a person while avoiding resistance.

Always remember there are times when each language style is appropriate. This applies here as there are times to be soft in direction and times to be much more direct. Even Milton Erickson knew this and practiced it. You will have to rely on your interpretation of the person, circumstance and context to know when the different languages are needed and will be most helpful.

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Agreement tactics are a great tool in conversational hypnosis. Not only are they a way for you to keep the conversation going, they get your subject into the habit of agreeing with what you are saying.

Without agreement the person you are making suggestions to will not bring them in as true ideas that they can use to change their lives. There must be something in the words you suggest that they find agreement with on some level in order to put them into action.

Agreement tactics will help you to really get into your subjects head. One of the first things an agreement tactic will assist you with is to distinguish the alertness of a person’s critical factor.

If the critical factor is in full swing they will still be able to criticize and analyze the information you are giving to them. Not only does the critical factor turn on the analysis of ideas it also starts to conform them to the ways in which that person views the world. They will see your suggestions only as they feel the world should work and not for the simplicity they need to make changes.

If they are doing this it may be difficult for them to find agreement in your suggestions and therefore they will not take them. The bottom line on critical factor is that if it is awake and functioning it will prevent change in your subject, which is the opposite of your goals as a hypnotist.

The answer to this is to have the ability to bypass the critical factor with your words, put that part of the mind to sleep. Once you have accomplished this you will be able to present information to the person and make everything seem acceptable on the basis of it can be. Everything needs to be taken in as plausible and possible so your suggestions will stick.

Agreement is the art of putting the critical factor to sleep. This will make it easier to bring in new ideas and create new realities where change can occur. There are four agreement tactics that will help you to lull the critical factor to sleep and we will do a short introduction of them here, these will be discussed more in depth in another article.

The first agreement tactic we will discuss is Plausibility. Once people are in the habit of agreeing with you it is much easier to get them to agree to ideas that they may not have completely agreed with if you were to just start with and state that idea.

This has happened to most people when trying to convince someone to see something our way. Take a moment to remember conversations you have had in the past, maybe you were in deep conversation with a friend on a point you view differently or debating a topic with a work colleague.

When you do this you would first lay out the ideas of the topic that you know they agree with, and then you would slowly work into the parts that they may or may not agree with and finally hit them with the big point that you are debating.

Now you may or may not have been successful in getting the agreement from them. If you were not this segment will help you with that ability.

In plausibility the easiest way to get a person to agree with you is if they are already in the flow of agreeing with the things you are saying. Once you have made several statements they can agree with your next statement can be one that they would find as true as your first statements. If it is a plausible idea they will tend to agree or just go along with it because you have turned off a part of their critical factor.

It is important to know that plausibility is based on a sliding scale; the more of an altered state of mind the person is in the less plausible your statements must be. The less entranced they are the more plausible your statements must be. It works to your advantage if you can get and hold a good altered state of mind.

If your subject is in a full state of trance then the plausibility of your statements can be zero and they will still be in a full state of agreement with your suggestions.

The second agreement tactic is the Agreement Habit. This tactic is largely based on the ‘go first’ concept. In going first you will start to create realities for your subjects to enter into and share with you.

This is vital as it is hard to get a person to believe a set of circumstances if you yourself do not believe them. You can act as if you believe them however your sub-communications will show people that you are not truly in agreement with your own ideas, or those you are trying to convey.

In this you need to take the lead and believe your thoughts and ideas first so as to pave the way for the people you are lending the suggestions and ideas to. Once you are in agreement with the suggestions or stories then your external behaviors will show this agreement.

The third agreement tactic is the ‘Yes Set’. This is a technique that is used simply to get your subjects in the habit of saying yes. Start with true simple statements that are verifiable facts, yet fit into the frame work of your conversation. This is important; after all you are using conversational hypnosis.

These ‘yes sets’ are created by stating the obvious, repeating what they have said and stating truisms. Truisms are ideas that are generally found true and created by the culture you live in.

The fourth and final agreement tactic is the ‘Piggy Back Principal’. Piggy backing is simply attaching a statement to an idea that is already going on or in. If your subject accepts an entire statement because the first part is true then they will on some level accept the rest of the statement that has made it in.

The trick in this tactic is to create contexts that your subject will want to accept. This is done by practicing the concepts we have been reviewing. You can create acceptable contexts by using compliments, yes sets, agreement habits and following the subject’s line of thinking.

At the end of each of these simply attach a suggestion. You are attaching a suggestion to something that is going to take place regardless. “The sun is out today and it will be a great day to start your diet.” The first part of the statement is a verifiable fact and the second part is going in simply because the first is true and correct.

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Rapport is a key skill that you will need to master to be a successful hypnotist. Without rapport your subject will not be open to your hypnotic suggestions and communications.

Rapport is the harmonious relationship that you share with people. In this relationship you understand and relate to people’s feelings, ideas as well as communicate with them well. Everyone does this everyday with the different relationships they share with family, friends and co-workers.

In order to build a strong and wide rapport you will need to practice and perfect certain skills. Rapport in normal circumstances can often come easily. Think of how easily you share your life with a spouse or your best friend. The rapport here is focused and good, it comes easily and casually.

However Hypnosis is not a normal or casual relationship. A deep amount of comfort, trust and familiarity must be established before you can reach your goals with a hypnotic subject. Remember they are going to let you into their mind this is not a place you open to just a perfect stranger.

As you are learning Hypnosis you will want to focus on advanced strategies for building rapport. Creating and building on ‘rapport hooks’ is a great skill that will get other people to build rapport with you. Rapport hooks are going to do the work of drawing your subject into you as you get acquainted.

Rapport hooks are developed in a way that will keep people coming back to you to build on the relationship. It causes people to work hard and value the relationships they are building. If a person feels that they are working hard to build something they will also continue to work to maintain the past success they have had.

When you put rapport hooks into action, they will keep the person coming back for more information. The hooks will get your subject to keep asking questions, and coming back to fill in the informational gaps in you are purposefully leaving in your stories.

One way to get a person to keep coming back for that information is to give them small pieces of information that may not be complete. Leave questions in their mind as you tell stories. Give a casual tone, but leave what, why and how open for your subject to dig with.

The key here is to avoid forcing information on to them. Get your subject interested but leave your topics open by adding suspense and unfinished information.

For example, if you are telling a story about a place you visited, use the name of the country but give no specifics about where you went. Tell them the scenery is beautiful but let them ask about the region or sites you saw. Let them probe for these answers. You can do this with almost any topic.

While you are talking remember to use a casual tone and present the information in a way that inclines them to ask for more. If your subject’s curiosity is peaked they will be inclined to want to know more to the point of asking you.

In this manner you are elegantly giving them a good story and drawing them in as well. The more curiosity and interest the person has the more questions they will ask. Asking you questions is subconsciously earning them the right to the information and they begin to feel it is more important.

When you use rapport hooks it will also help you with fractionate rapport. Fractionate rapport happens when you are giving rapport then consciously taking it away.

Give your subject your full attention for a while, then, distract yourself. Getting casually distracted by looking around or engaging your attention elsewhere will cause the subject to re-engage you. If the person does re-engage you then you are on board with the beginnings of a foundation for an advanced rapport.

Again this is causing the person to work for your attention. You give it, and then take your attention away. They then have to work to get it back. This makes the relationship more valued yet again because it is not being forced upon them. They are asking for it and earning it.

When using these advanced rapport building skills you will successfully push your rapport further, faster than normal. The more push and pull you involve in your conversations the quicker and deeper your rapport will go.

These skills will take your relationship to higher levels of comfort and trust quickly so a good and wide enough rapport is set to continue. Once this is founded and put into place you will be able to begin to put your subject into trance and begin the real work of Hypnosis.

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Hypnosis is a deep and complicated process where the hypnotist and subject must have a wide rapport to support. When you participate in conducting a hypnotic trance your unconscious will be opened to them. Because of this it is important to have the experience you wish them to partake in at the forefront of your mind when starting the rapport.

Rapport is not a term generated just for use in Hypnosis. It happens with everyone you come into conversational contact with. And the rapport you develop with your subjects is instrumental in conducting successful conversational Hypnosis.

Hypnosis is anything but a casual relationship between two people. It is a deep connection that must be supported with good rapport. Anything you feel will unconsciously be projected upon the person you are trying to hypnotize. Because of this it is paramount that you learn to take your rapport skills out of the range of normal and beyond.

Hypnotic rapport is a time tested relationship. It has been present since people have been in existence. It is not fully understood and may never be, but it is very powerful.

Rapport is powerful in the sense that anytime a person around you experiences a trance they will inevitably take on a deeper connection with you and your unconscious mind. This deepens the trust between the participants and offers a sense of comfort in your company.

Going first, or ‘go first’ concept is an important one to become highly familiar with. In ‘go first’ you as the hypnotist must first enter the environment and experience you want your subject to have.

The reason you need to enter the experience before your hypnotic subject is so they will pick that experience up from your subconscious as they are in trance. Because every time a person goes into trance around you they develop an unconscious connection with you, if you have the experience at the forefront of your mind they will bring it back with them after the Hypnosis is concluded.

As you begin to make hypnotic connections with other people you will be unconsciously exploring their mind as they will be making a connection with your unconscious as well. This is a powerful part of Hypnosis. It allows each person to explore thoughts and ideas they never knew they had until that precise moment.

An example of this is prevalent in our everyday lives. We have all met people that we have a difficult time connecting with. You may have the same conversations over and over with little success in a real connection. It may seem that there is some sort of barrier up between the two of you. You never quite get past the small talk questions because you are not comfortable enough to advance into a deeper relationship.

This relationship is skewed because on an unconscious level these people are sub-communicating their sense of distrust and non ability to be comfortable around you. This atmosphere within in a person you are trying to connect with will shut down your thoughts and ideas. This will happen even before those thoughts and ideas have even had a chance to properly develop and come to your conscious.

On the other hand you probably meet people that you seem to have an instant connection with. In these situations it can seem that the thoughts and ideas are flowing from you endlessly. Ideas you never even realized you had come easily and seamlessly carry your listener. You are charismatic with these people, your ideas are good, and they come out well.

Split personality? No.

This is the way most people work. Those who are confident, comfortable and trusting in themselves often send out unconscious signals to others that produce the same effect in others. People who are not sure of themselves or comfortable will unconsciously cut off successful communications before they have had a chance to even try.

In Hypnosis you will want to have the effect of the second situation. If you have a good rapport with your subjects and they feel comfortable and trusting around you they will be able to easily open up to you. You can aid in this process by making the mental environment even more comfortable by using the ‘go first’ method in Hypnosis.

It is important to remember that Hypnosis is no casual relationship. You want your clients and the people around you to feel as if they have known you for years and can open up to you anywhere.

Developing an instant rapport with a complete stranger is a skill that will attribute to your success as a hypnotist. This is established through good rapport. Good rapport can be established through different methods such as the ‘go first’ method.

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When building a rapport with other people there are various mistakes that can be detrimental to the developing relationship. Three of the most common mistakes made when building rapport are trying too hard, being too nice and wanting something too much. All of these are easily remedied as are the three worst mistakes you can make when building a rapport with people. The key is being able to recognize the mistake and know the solution.

When refining the skill of building rapport the first of three detrimental mistakes you can make is to show a lack of genuine interest. This is shown through signals given off by body language.

When you are focused and genuinely interested in what another person is saying your body responds in ways others pick up on a subconscious level. These signals range from a change in body language and pupil dilation to your actual focusing signals.

If you are bored or showing disinterest people will often respond by turning off. They may show you that they are annoyed with you or simply lose interest as well. Two people having a conversation where neither is interested will damage rapport to say the least.

There are two solutions to this first problem. One is the idea of ‘tracking back’. Track back is similar to active listening. In track back you repeat the same words back to the speaker, in the same language they used. This shows you are interested, keeps your mind on track and clarifies what is being discussed.

You can also apply a track back frame in this skill. This is simply a set of words that frame the exact phrase you are repeating back. “So what you’re saying is…”

Active listening is different in that you repeat back what the speaker has said using your own words. The dilemma with this is that when you change the words and language you will often change the emotional meaning and tone of the words.

All language has a neurological effect on people and when you change the emotional meaning of a phrase you can accidentally change the entire meaning. If you change or lose the meaning of what your speaker is saying it may appear that you weren’t listening at all. Again creating the idea that you are disinterested in your speaker’s thoughts and ideas.

The other solution to this problem is to take the advice of Carl Rogers. Rogers was a great psychologist in the early 1900’s. Carl Rogers said that you should always have a high regard for the other person.

No matter what you think of them under other circumstances, if you are trying to build a lasting rapport you must find a way to convince yourself 100% what they are saying is worthy of respect.

When you accomplish this you will accomplish the task of opening up your speaker. You are saying with your body and subconscious signals that they will not be criticized or attacked; you are in a safe place. In order to develop rapport your subject needs to feel safe in order to share feelings and ideas with you.

The next horrible mistake you can make while trying to build rapport is to play the wrong role within a relationship. When two people are building rapport their relationship can fluctuate.

There are three different roles you can take on in every relationship you are creating. These consist of a high status, low status and equal status. This has nothing to do with your annual income it is merely a place within a relationship. For example an instructor usually has the high status in interaction with a student, and the student has the lower status.

Now it seems that status would naturally fall into place within conversation, right? The problem with this is that there are people who are unable to take on different status themselves. They need to be led into a new status.

If you are dealing with a person who only likes to be in a high status and you attempt to take away their role for yourself they will not be comfortable. In fact this will usually result in them disliking you and distrusting you.

You must learn to be a flexible communicator. If you have the ability to take on whatever status is necessary you will be able to open communication with anyone and start a rapport. Once you have done this you can slowly change your levels as they follow your lead and adapt to you.

Keep in mind the ‘pacing and leading’ principle here. You can only travel through the different status roles as quickly as your subject will comfortably follow.

The final vital mistake you can make in your rapport building is to neglect a wide rapport and build only a deep rapport. A deep rapport is when you base your entire interaction with a person on one subject, interest or environment. This type of rapport will get you deep in that area alone quickly.

It is in your better interest to have a wide rapport so people can relate to you on many different levels. A wide rapport gives a person many different experiences of you in many different environments, interests and subjects.

This is important as it does not limit you. Your subject can feel comfortable talking with you in many places about many different ideas, feelings and thoughts.

There are two ways to create wide rapport. One is to meet in different locations to conduct your interactions. This could be enjoyable but time consuming. The other is to develop wide rapport through story telling.

Story telling offers you an endless amount of places, topics, themes and ideas you can open your subject up to. The more sense of your complete personality they have the more comfortable they will be in building rapport.

As you continue to talk about different topics your subject will eventually be willing to open up to you about anything. There are many different techniques and uses for story telling that you will learn throughout your Hypnosis training.

Now that you are aware of the common mistakes and pitfalls of building rapport you can use the simple solutions provided to refine your skills. Always keep in mind that the better your rapport building skills the better you will be in the act of Hypnosis.

Now go forth and build elegant and beautiful rapport with everyone you know.

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