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		<title>How to Create Emotional Triggers in Hypnosis</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 28 Jun 2010 14:08:13 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Emotional Triggers are a key element in Conversational Hypnosis. These skills will help you to embed your suggestions is a pure clear state of mind. They will make change for the people around you easier and more efficient. In order to create a new Emotional Trigger in a person there are skills and concepts you [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Emotional Triggers are a key element in <strong><a href="http://inducetrance.com/conversational-hypnosis" target="_blank">Conversational Hypnosis</a></strong>. These skills will help you to embed your suggestions is a pure clear state of mind. They will make change for the people around you easier and more efficient.</p>
<p>In order to <strong>create a new Emotional Trigger</strong> in a person there are skills and concepts you must learn to do first to be successful in implanting an Emotional Trigger. Before you start to practice the concepts in this article be sure to have the principal of 4 Stage Protocol mastered. The <strong>4 Stage Protocol</strong> will help you to set the right environment to set a successful Emotional Trigger.</p>
<p>Aside from the 4 Stage Protocol you must also be able to understand and utilize the technique of ‘<strong>going first’</strong>. Both these concepts will help your subject to enter the clearest state of mind to whatever emotion you are trying to provoke. Once you have mastered these two skills and are well practiced at the other beginning skills you will have the ability to smoothly set successful Emotional Triggers.</p>
<p>When you have a listener and you are ready to set an Emotional Trigger in them you must first utilize the <strong>4 Stage Protocol</strong>. If you will remember this is used to <strong>bypass the critical filter</strong> and keep the listener from analyzing your trigger. If you cannot use the 4 Stage Protocol then your attempts at setting triggers may likely go unsuccessfully for the simple fact that the conscious mind will be too involved to let the trigger in.</p>
<p>Your trigger may not even make it past the critical thinking of the person and be rejected before it is even set. Setting Emotional Triggers is an act that needs to happen when the conscious mind is not aware of what you are doing. This way it will take less time and effort to set a successful Emotional Trigger.</p>
<p>On the other hand it is possible to set a trigger when someone is consciously aware. The danger here is that it will activate the <strong>Law of Reversed Effect</strong>. The Law of Reversed Effect if you remember is the harder you try at a thing the more likely it is you will fail. The harder they are trying to consciously activate the state you are trying to trigger the more likely it is they will fail.</p>
<p>Another pitfall of setting triggers while the conscious awareness is checked in is that it will take more and more repetitions to set the trigger. The reason for this is you will have to work harder to bypass the critical filters as they will still be in place if the person is consciously aware.</p>
<p>So the first step in setting Emotional Triggers is to use the 4 Stage Protocol, the second step is to <strong>induce a State</strong>. This is done by actually giving direction to the person’s inner experiences; this will assist you in accessing hypnotic experiences.</p>
<p>Inducing a State is easiest done by asking questions that will be vivid enough to bring the experience back to life. There are other tools in your language that will help you with this. The main language skills you will want to use are detailed descriptions that bring a set of vivid pictures and feelings to the forefront of the listener’s mind.</p>
<p>By doing these detailed descriptions in vivid detail you will be triggering an already existing emotional trigger. This is a trigger that was previously developed through environmental experiences or because you created it purposefully in a previous session to trigger the state you are looking for.</p>
<p>Pre-existing triggers, whether created environmentally or by you, will be helpful in your job as a hypnotist especially when working with the same subject consistently. This happens because once a person is used to or recognizes your hypnotic tone or auditory shift to a hypnotic voice it will tend to trigger responses much quicker.</p>
<p>This shift to your hypnotic voice when working with your regular clients will help them in accessing hypnotic experiences.</p>
<p>This is why you must develop several different voices. Your speaking voice must have a different tonality than your normal speaking voice otherwise you could send people into trance at inappropriate times.</p>
<p>Think about if you were to always use your hypnotic tone with people who are conditioned to go into trance when they hear it. It can produce dangerous situations for you and your subjects. Hypnotic states should only be accessed when the person is in a situation where they are not consciously concentrating on any other thing.</p>
<p>At this point we should add that it is important to really polish your skills so that you are aware that you are only setting triggers and inducing hypnotic states when the outcome will have a positive effect. These should be used to bring to light positive changes in a person and because these triggers are set accidentally around you and possibly by you everyday it is important to become aware to only do it when the time is right.</p>
<p>The third step in creating Emotional Triggers is to <strong>intensify the State</strong>. This is pivotal; you must produce the cleanest, clearest and most pure state of mind possible in order to get the best result in setting your trigger. The stronger your subject’s state the easier it will be to not only set the trigger but also to activate that trigger to access the state again later.</p>
<p>Finally the fourth step in creating an Emotional Trigger is to <strong>associate the State to the Emotional Trigger</strong>. This is just as it states, you will be attaching the clean state of mind to the emotional trigger you want it associated with. After you accomplish this you will use the <strong>ABSAIL formula</strong> to link it all to an action that is carried out by the person you are working with.</p>
<p>After you have accessed a clear state of mind you will set your trigger, this is done simply by firing the trigger. Do whatever it is you want the trigger to be, if it is your voice use that voice. If you want the trigger to be a gesture or mannerism use that specific gesture or mannerism.</p>
<p>Remember that your tone of voice is important and will often work alone with those you have been in hypnosis with before. It is also important to remember that the trigger you set should be something you can use within the context of a normal conversation. This way it is easy for you to fire the trigger later with little to no extra effort.</p>
<p>It is important to also remember that setting and creating Emotional Triggers in people is a powerful action and will be one of the key elements in the basis of your hypnosis.</p>
<p>A quick review of the vast amount of information here is that you will set Emotional Triggers by accessing a pure state of mind. At the height of their emotional experience you will set off the trigger you have chosen, this attaches that state to that trigger meaning whenever you want to access that set of emotions in a person you will use that trigger to do so.</p>
<p>It may be possible that with some subjects you will need to repeat or condition the trigger, this is simply done through repetition. Always keep in mind that the more powerful the state is the easier the trigger will set.</p>
<p>After you have set your trigger you will want to test it to be sure it was set correctly and accessing the correct emotional state. This is done by breaking the state the person is currently in and re-firing the trigger, then observe. If the person re-enters the same state, meaning you see the signals that show you they have re-entered that state, your trigger was successfully set.</p>
<p>You will remember these signs from the Signal Recognitions System we reviewed earlier in these articles.</p>
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		<title>The Law of Reversed Effect in Hypnosis: How to Use the Hypnotic Challenge</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 30 Nov 2009 03:48:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Covert Hypnotist</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Photo by Smath As you dive into the deep art of conversational hypnosis you will find that there are a set of Stealth Tactics that can be used in order to bypass the critical factor in people’s minds. Stealth Tactics are used in a way that either will be unnoticed by your subject or will [...]]]></description>
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<p>As you dive into the deep art of <strong><a href="http://inducetrance.com/conversational-hypnosis" target="_blank">conversational hypnosis</a></strong> you will find that there are a set of Stealth Tactics that can be used in order to <strong>bypass the critical factor in people’s minds</strong>. Stealth Tactics are used in a way that either will be unnoticed by your subject or will be too complicated for them to really grasp the objective you have in mind.</p>
<p>The main point in <strong><a href="http://inducetrance.com/stealth-tactics-in-hypnosis-what-are-stealth-tactics/" target="_blank">Stealth Tactics</a></strong> is that this is a way of disguising what you are doing in order to defeat the critical factor and get your message through a person’s resistance. Because these tactics are a little on the sneaky side you will want to be sure to exercise the best judgment in using them. If you do not, it is likely that your listener’s unconscious will start to distrust or dislike you in the actions you are taking.</p>
<p>The first Stealth Tactic we will discuss is the <strong>Law of Reversed Effect</strong>; it will explain how we should be using something called the <strong>Hypnotic Challenge</strong>. The Law of Reversed Effect is simply that the harder you try to do something the more likely it is that you will fail. This is not to be confused with persistence. It is not the more your try to do a thing it is the harder you try to do a thing that will result in failure.</p>
<p>There is a reason this failure will take place and that is that our conscious minds work in a way that it executes doing things. Our unconscious mind acts on the things we decide to do and works out the navigation of how to actually do them. For instance you decide to read a book, you read the words consciously but your unconscious deciphers them and adds the emotions and feelings that accompany the words.</p>
<p>This is important to understand as it is the basis of why the Law of Reversed Effect works. <strong>The Law of Reversed Effect works because our conscious mind is trying to do something that we would normally use our unconscious mind for</strong>. The conscious mind works on the simple things, things that only require 5 – 9 steps to accomplish. The unconscious mind makes the more complicated functions of life run more smoothly as it can handle much more complicated procedures.</p>
<p>It is only when the conscious mind starts to get into the unconscious mind’s territory that failure begins to take place. When the conscious mind starts to interfere with the fluid motions of the unconscious the result is failure.</p>
<p>Now this brings us to the <strong>Law of Imagination</strong>, which is yet another reason for failure. The best way to describe this law is to give you an example. We are all humans and in that we want things. If you think of something you want but should not have you start to set yourself up for the failure in this law.</p>
<p>The way this works is when you state that you do not want something or you shouldn’t do something, you are reminded of it often as you think about how you shouldn’t have it. Usually if you want something the thought of it will bring a mirage of good experiences to mind. If you like cake, the taste, if you like cars, the excitement of owning a new car.</p>
<p>These are good feelings and experiences that you relate to the thing you are trying to avoid. The more you think about preventing yourself from getting the thing you shouldn’t have the more positive associations are ignited in your head. Eventually you will be overloaded by the positive images of the thing you shouldn’t have and your unconscious will give in and get the thing you shouldn’t have.</p>
<p>Now in this comes the Hypnotic Challenge. In the Hypnotic Challenge you are going to be setting your listener up for failure by using the Law of Imagination and the Law of Reversed Effect. The Hypnotic Challenge is a way that you will ask someone to try to fulfill a suggestions and you watch to see how they fail.</p>
<p>A classic hypnotist would do this through <strong>suggestibility tests</strong>. The test is not within the suggestions themselves it lies within the challenge and failure to complete that challenge attached to the end of the test. When a person try’s and fails a challenge you have set before them they will unconsciously start to believe that resistance is not within their means.</p>
<p>As long as the listener believes that resistance is not within them to control, that control will be given over to the hypnotist. As long as they continue to believe this one thing it will continue to ring true for them. Now all the suggestions you make will easily flow to the unconscious because there is no resistance in place to stop and examine the suggestions.</p>
<p>This is where the reversed effect comes in; by showing a person that they have no resistance and that they will fail you have actually, in a very sneaky way, passed up the barrier that causes failure. They have no resistance; they failed because you set it up that way, now they will believe they have no control over failure. Because they believe this you now have the power to avoid all failure in your objective as you have bypassed all their resistance.</p>
<p>The best way to use this law in <strong><a href="http://inducetrance.com/conversational-hypnosis" target="_blank">conversational hypnosis</a></strong> is to use a linguistic trick by using words that imply “try”. “Try” itself implies failure and to imply the failure is to stack the odds in your favor that they will actually fail at a preconceived task.</p>
<p>Now let’s review this as there is a lot of action going on in this Stealth Tactic. The Law of Reversed Effect says that the harder you try to do a thing the more likely it is you will fail.</p>
<p>To put this law in action you need to require that the subject make a conscious interference with a normally unconscious process. You will add to this basing the odds in your favor by asking them to complete a task it is likely they will fail at. As you do this you will use subtle hints to imply they will fail, such as the word try or something with a like meaning.</p>
<p>All of these steps will cause a conflict in their resistance to your suggestion. The critical factor and resistance will be completely bypassed in the process.</p>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 29 Oct 2009 18:08:37 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Covert Hypnotist</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Photo by Ciprian Ionescu Conversational Hypnosis is an art of communicating suggestions to others while they are in a state of trance. The suggestions you are giving to audience should be ones that will help them to live happier, healthier and more fulfilling lives. The question becomes how to get the very suggestions in to [...]]]></description>
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<p><strong><a href="http://inducetrance.com/conversational-hypnosis" target="_blank">Conversational Hypnosis</a></strong> is an art of communicating suggestions to others while they are in a <strong>state of trance</strong>. The suggestions you are giving to audience should be ones that will help them to live happier, healthier and more fulfilling lives. The question becomes how to get the very suggestions in to a person&#8217;s mind when they reject them.</p>
<p>Everyone has what we refer to as a <strong>critical filter</strong>. This is the mechanism inside your mind that analyzes and criticizes information coming in from outside sources. The critical filters decide what is safe to allow inside our minds. They are also responsible for creating resistance for hypnotists. They look at all the messages being sent to the mind and either reject or accept them.</p>
<p><strong>There are times when a person’s critical filter has become overactive and will start to reject even the good and wise suggestions coming from anyone.</strong> A good example of this is when a friend, someone you would normally trust, gives you a great piece of advice and you just outright reject and discard it with no thought. The critical filter has come to a point where it is simply not allowing any information in.</p>
<p><strong>Stealth Tactics</strong> are the tool hypnotists and you will use to get past the critical factor. They were created in a way to assist in helping to influence people in a positive way that still bypasses the critical factor inside the mind. There are other ways to get past the critical factor although they are largely damaging and can cause emotional and mental hardship which should not be your goal in hypnosis. In fact quite the opposite.</p>
<p>Stealth Tactics are a secretive way of getting past the critical factor that doesn’t resort to bullying. These concepts are based on a set of principals that will allow you to use people’s strengths against them in ways that will help them to improve their lives in the ways they want. True they are a bit sneaky, as you will see, <strong>but all intentions with Stealth Tactics are truly good intentions</strong>. It is simply an alternative way to get inside the mind so you can begin your work as a hypnotist.</p>
<p>There are five Stealth Tactics that we will give a brief explanation of here and then dive further into in future articles.</p>
<p>The first Stealth Tactic is the <strong>Law of Reversed Effect</strong>. This principal is very powerful like most of the Stealth Tactics. In the Law of Reversed Effect the concept is that the harder you try to do something the more likely it is you will fail.</p>
<p>This happens mainly because a person that is consciously trying to do something that should be taking place unconsciously. The effect of the conscious mind interfering with the fluid movements of the unconscious mind is confusion and failure.</p>
<p>The reason the Law of Reversed Effect works for Conversational Hypnotists is that when put into action it causes a person to fail at something, you cause a person to fail at a requested task. That failure will cause the person to step away from their resistance and allow your suggestions in.</p>
<p>The second Stealth Tactic is to <strong>Redirect Resistance</strong>. Redirecting Resistance is the art of giving a person something they can resist you over so they feel validated and powerful in their abilities to control their own mind.</p>
<p>Now the beauty here is that while they are busy resisting you over an idea that you are really not concerned with you have the opportunity to give your suggestions to them. Many times they will be so busy consciously resisting the one aspect that the important suggestion is never even noticed going in.</p>
<p><strong>Refocusing Attention</strong> is the third Stealth Tactic and it can be used right along with Redirecting Resistance. We will cover that aspect in a future article. The importance here is that you have a brief summary of Refocusing Attention.</p>
<p>Refocusing Attention is when you subtly place the suggestion you want to get across in conversation and then distract or refocus the listener’s attention elsewhere. This is a simple and easy process once you get the hang of it but can be very powerful when put to full use.</p>
<p>The fourth Stealth Tactic is <strong>Implication</strong>. Implication is the power of how to use body language, facial expressions and tone of voice in order to imply a thing. This is considered a Stealth Tactic because when you imply something to someone it usually bypasses the critical filter simply because we assume implications are true.</p>
<p>People don’t typically stop to analyze them because this is a lot of hard work and effort to put in to an implied idea. This tactic is used everyday in the natural ways we speak and can be a great tool in hypnosis.</p>
<p><strong>Presuppositions</strong> are the fifth Stealth Tactic we will eventually cover in depth. As for a quick introduction, presuppositions are simply linguistic assumptions. These are the things that are automatically assumed to be true based solely on the language we use to convey them.</p>
<p>This may sound complicated at first but once you get into the habit of using presuppositions they are very easy to use and you in fact use them everyday. Presuppositions have a lot in common with implications simply because they are assumptions. Again this Stealth Tactic is very powerful and can be like all the Stealth Tactics layered with the others to make a more powerful affect than when used alone.</p>
<p>Finally the sixth Stealth Tactic is called <strong>Binds and Double Binds</strong>. Binds and Double Binds are a strategic way of phrasing a statement or question that gives the illustration of a choice but that choice really does not exist. It was thought in the 1970’s that binds and double binds were the cause of schizophrenic symptoms resulting from childhood.</p>
<p>A bind or double bind is a sneaky way of redirecting the resistance of a person because they simply do not have a choice in the matter. You sound as if you are asking a question or giving a choice but you are really getting a much bigger question answered in the process.</p>
<p>A famous Marx Brothers line that is a double bind is when a man asks the hotel manager, “<em>So are you still beating your wife, yes or no</em>?” The bind is in that no matter how he answered the question he would be admitting guilt of beating his wife.</p>
<p>Binds and double binds are a very powerful way to bypass the critical factor as are all the other Stealth Tactics. You will learn much more about these and how to use them as you progress through the next five articles. Until then the main concept you need to know is that these are principals that can be combined with one another and the other language skills you have been learning in order to really know how to begin to communicate hypnotically.</p>
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		<title>3 Most Common Mistakes Hypnotists Make in Building Rapport</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 08 Jul 2008 13:58:36 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Photo by striatic Building rapport as a hypnotist is very important. As you improve your rapport skills you will be improving your overall skill as a hypnotist. In saying that, it is important to be aware of the common mistakes made in building rapport. The ability to have great rapport with your subjects is one [...]]]></description>
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<p><strong>Building rapport as a <a href="http://inducetrance.com/conversational-hypnosis/" target="_blank">hypnotist</a> is very important</strong>. As you improve your rapport skills you will be improving your overall skill as a <strong>hypnotist</strong>. In saying that, it is important to be aware of the <strong>common mistakes made in building rapport</strong>.</p>
<p>The ability to have <strong>great rapport</strong> with your subjects is one of the <strong>first tools you will need as a hypnotist</strong>. Common mistakes made in this area are hard to identify as ‘mistakes’ unless you are aware of what they are.</p>
<p><strong>The first most common mistake made is simply trying to be too nice</strong>. Of course you should be nice to people. But there is a point in time in certain relationships when the line must be drawn.</p>
<p><strong>In order to develop a deep rapport with people you need to have full communication</strong>. This means that everything that needs to be said must be said, even if it is unpleasant. Not having full communication can disable you from sharing important thoughts, ideas and feelings.<span id="more-11"></span></p>
<p>The basic rule to follow here is to <strong>be nice but not at the expense of real communication</strong>. Say what needs to be said. If you do not the rapport will break down and a barrier will start to go up.</p>
<p>Most people have experienced one end or the other of trying to be too nice. One example is we are often too busy with politeness to show our true selves.</p>
<p>The other end of the spectrum is we encounter people who are trying too hard to be nice to us. Either way you look at it, a wall is constructed and these people remain casual acquaintances. We often have the same exact conversations with these people and never truly build a lasting rapport with them because there is <strong>no real communication happening</strong>.</p>
<p><strong>The second mistake that is often made when attempting to build rapport is trying too hard</strong>. Yes this is closely related to the first mistake. When we try too hard we send signals of desperation. It shows that we are too eager to please or desperate for company.</p>
<p><strong>No one likes to be surrounded with desperate people</strong>. The air of desperation often causes those around it to feel obligated or under a lot of pressure. Both of these feelings can completely shut down communication.</p>
<p>Trying too hard is a mistake that can lead to the “<strong>Law of Reversed Effect</strong>”. The “Law of Reversed Effect” means the harder you try, the more likely you will fail. This is because you are actually interfering with the unconscious process.</p>
<p><strong>When you try too hard you are not falling into a gentle rhythm where rapport is produced you are trying to force a relationship that is not ready yet</strong>. Maintaining a sense of what needs to happen to create rapport is essential to your success.</p>
<p>Once you recognize what needs to happen you should let your unconscious take over and implement the steps itself. ‘<strong>Instant rapport technique</strong>’ will help with this later in another article.</p>
<p>The third mistake that is common in <strong><a href="http://inducetrance.com/conversational-hypnosis/" target="_blank">Hypnosis</a></strong> is to want something from someone too much. This mistake is again closely related to the first two mistakes.</p>
<p>When we want something too much we often become pushy and overwhelming, especially so to the subconscious. Once an individual has pushed too much their counterpart will back off or become disinterested. Salesmen encounter this often.</p>
<p>There is a solution for this. ‘<strong>Fractionating rapport</strong>’ will help you to pace yourself in the amount of intimacy you seek. In fractionation you work on building a little rapport and then leave it alone for a while. Let the subject come and re-engage you. Each time you repeat the process you will be <strong>digging deeper and deeper into a comfort zone and building a strong rapport with the person</strong>.</p>
<p>This technique keeps people in their comfort zones, and you are only stretching that zone a little each time you go through the motions. Soon conversation, <strong>give and take, push and pull</strong> will become a natural and familiar habit.</p>
<p><strong>Being too nice to people, trying too hard and wanting something too much</strong>, all have simple solutions to help you become successful.</p>
<p>If you are being too nice to your subjects, stop and remember there is a point at which you must stop being nice to save the rapport.</p>
<p>If you are trying too hard with your subjects implement the ‘<strong>instant rapport technique</strong>’. This will <strong>allow the unconscious to send the normal rapport signals to you through your subject</strong>.</p>
<p>And if you want something too much, stop doing it and <strong>use fractionation</strong>. Soon over a small amount of time you will have built many steps to great rapport.</p>
<p>Being aware of these <strong>three common mistakes in building rapport</strong> will help you to not only avoid them but to <strong>improve you <a href="http://inducetrance.com/conversational-hypnosis/" target="_blank">Hypnosis</a> skills further</strong>.</p>
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